Bizarre is an understatement when a man came to demand for his money from a friend that borrowed cash from him.
It shocked him to learn that the man who owes his money was no more.
This happened in one of the remote villages in Kenya.
In a video circulating online, the man went to his grave and demanded his money back.
Realising that his deceased friend was not responding, the enraged man only identified as Joshua took a strong cane.
He started raining strokes of canes on the grave, presumably beating the hell out of his friend that died before giving him his money back.
The family members of the deceased were shocked with his bizarre behavior tried to restrain Joshua, who was wailing uncontrollably.
We can explain his bizarre behaviour in different breaths, from anger of losing a friend to the fact that he is still in denial.
People have different ways of mourning, and it is of great importance to understand all the stages of mourning.
This will help the society understand how to handle and comfort their friends and loved ones who are grieving.
First stage is ;
1: Denial- You can’t believe that you have lost a loved one. The reality shifts and we try to think it is a lie.
It takes time before they accept and move on depending on our mindsets.
2: Anger-When we discharge loss-related emotions, rage is often the first emotion we experience.
This might make you feel alienated from your experience and unapproachable by others.
We need comfort, connection, and reassurance the most.
3: Bargaining-When you’re dealing with a loss, it’s common to feel so desperate that you’ll do virtually anything to relieve or reduce the agony.
When we lose a loved one, we may contemplate any way we may prevent the sorrow we are experiencing.
We can try to bargain in a variety of ways.
Bargaining can take the form of a variety of promises, such as
“God, if you can heal this individual, you can change my life.”
“If you let this individual survive, I pledge to be better.”
” Keep him/her from dying or leaving me. I’ll never be furious again.”
4: Depression-We felt more intensely the loss of a loved one.
As our terror dissipates, the emotional fog lifts, and the loss becomes more tangible and unavoidable.
Melancholy develops, we withdraw inside ourselves.
We may feel ourselves withdrawing, becoming less sociable, and reaching out to others less about our problems.
Here bizarre behaviour sets in and can be scary to people close to you.
Dealing with depression following the loss of a loved one may be immensely isolating, although it is a typical stage of bereavement.
5: Acceptance- We no longer feel the anguish of loss when we reach a point of acceptance.
But we are no longer opposing the truth of our circumstance, and we are no longer attempting to change it.